"Roll with it, Baby"
---- Steve Winwood circa 1986
It seems that so many of our "problems, concerns, palpitations, and anxiety" issues are self-created and easily fixable if we approach them from a different angle!
Life is all about How you approach something!
Think about it!
As a parent we learn that how WE react to a child falling down and scraping their knee or elbow will generally dictate how the child reacts to the fall (broken bones excluded).
If we go crazy and shriek and make a huge deal about it - the child is more likely to react in kind and freak out!
However, if we are calm and downplay it - the child will quickly recover and forget about the scrape in a matter of minutes.
Human nature is an amazing phenomenon and very easily manipulated!
We must learn how to manipulate it!
We may have something happen to us - a slight, an error, an argument, etc - and it may only last 5 seconds.
Yet we as humans will take that 5 second incident (call it an insult or a slight) and ruminate on it - replay it over and over in our heads, analyze it 20,000 times for the next few days!!
It is Crazy!
So what if we took a different approach to anything negative that occurs to us and looked at the situation from a different perpsective? Wouldn't that be more helpful and worthwhile to us?
Do Not immediately assume you are the cause of the "issue". We tend to blaame ourselves for everything and feel like we are the root cause of any evil that befalls us!
This is RIDICULOUS!
So next time something bad occurs to you - take a step back and realize that IN THE LONG RUN it is pretty inconsequential to your life!
If we allow it to become the World's Largest "Knee Scrape" and approach it as such, it WILL BECOME exactly that! That is HUMAN NATURE!!
We are not that far removed from the child we were many moons ago- except now we CONTROL how we react - not our parents!
So Control your REACTIONS to things -- to events - to rude people - to bad colleagues - to horribly dangerous drivers -- and do not let these things get under your skin!
If you go back through your mental history catalogue and pick out the BIGGEST TRAUMAS you have ever experienced (death, grave illness, and those real issues aside)- you would be amazed at How Big of a Deal we made of it and HOW LITTLE it mattered!
So why address these issues in hindsight only when we have the ability to CONTROL our REACTIONS and diffuse any bad situation or circumstance AS THEY OCCUR?
It works - try it!
Any issue that occurs - approach it as "Is this really that big of a deal" for me to get all upset over?
Is it life-threatening? Is it the END OF THE WORLD??
I am willing to bet that 99.9% of the issues you are stressing over today are not in those categories --- YET you are diminishing the quality of your LIFE by making Mountains out of a series of Mole Hills!
STOP DOING IT!!
"Worry" is a waste of time and drains you - all for something that 99% of the time NEVER OCCURS!!
So be careful how you "view" a situation --- approach it from the angle of "Is this really worth my stress and worry?"
Chances are the majority are NOT worth it and you can train yourself to let it ROLL OFF YOUR BACK!
You life will be much happier - so much calmer - and you will be amazed at how things that once rattled you and threw you off your game NOW are nothing but an instant of unpleasant memory!
Have a great weekend and STAY STRONG!!
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