"For each new morning with its light,
For rest and shelter of the night,
For health and food, for love and friends,
For everything Thy goodness sends."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Wishing you all a safe and wonderful Thanksgiving Day!
God bless and Stay Strong!
"Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are."
- Anonymous
PLEASE do not take a single moment of this life for granted.
The good and the bad, the challenges and the joys, the struggles and the victories, the defeats and the triumphs- all of these are the ingredients for the perfect life on this earth!
They all add up and blend into what we call the story of our lives...
It sounds cliche no doubt, but it really is the journey that matters - not necessarily the destination! !
Do not rush to the ending just yet!!!
Savor each chapter, even the painful ones, because those too shall pass!!!!
And with whatever storm you are in today having passed, with the sun shining on us and the storm clouds having lifted and dissipated, we will emerge stronger, more grateful and understanding, and confident that we can handle ANYTHING life throws in our way!!
It is not easy to see the shore sometimes when we are fighting for our lives, but we MUST envision it and BELIEVE in it because relief and peace will eventually come to all of us!!
Embrace the challenges you are encountering with true Confidence and Hope, and have FAITH that all will be ok when the clouds lift and the seas subside!!
Because it all will....!!!!!
You are not in this battle alone!
Happy Thanksgiving to all and I wish you many blessings of Gratefulness and Joy for all we have been granted!
Let's count all our blessings as we all have so many!
Stay Strong!!!
Today marks 3 years since Brendan left us on this earth and the void he left in the lives of all who knew him is still a gaping hole.
It is in the times of challenge and tension where we find that we most miss his steady counsel and no nonsense advice that somehow always seemed to prove to be tremendous insight and wise guidance.
Not having him here when his mom Grandma was sick and passed was another of those moments when you realized just the value of what has been lost to us all in his passing.
I take solace and some comfort in knowing that today he is smiling and laughing with his Mom and Dad, his brother, his niece, his uncles and some of his friends. And knowing Brendan, he has no doubt met and made friends with all of Heaven and EVERYONE up there knows who he is! ;)
I wrote a little piece back when he passed and it is attached below for those who never had the pleasure and amazing experience of meeting and knowing Brendan Thomas O'Toole.
I apologize for the length of it.
It does not come remotely close to doing justice to who he was and what he meant to his friends and loved ones but it was a shot at an impossible task to pull off.
We miss you every day Uncle B!
Give our love to all up there and keep smiling down on us!
Have a little extra stuffing and pie this Thursday - we will be thinking of you!
Thank you for the smile and the photo opp this am! :)
Stay Strong!
Sorry for such a long post, but you cannot write about someone like Brendan O'Toole in a few simple paragraphs. ;).
It may be best to read in installments if at all... Lol...
Wow!! What an emotional roller-coaster of a week to say the least.
Brendan's sudden and tragic departure from this earth hit me like a ton of bricks across the nose and although I loved and cared for Brendan, I could not lay claim to being as intimately close to him as obviously his immediate family and close friends were.
Still, the news of his death still reverberates into my very core. I am still besieged with feelings of profound sadness, regret, anger, confusion, helplessness, hopelessness, despair, hope, love, and inspiration!!
All at once at times, and independently during the day at other times. It is chaotic and surreal.
My feelings today are much like what having a deep conversation with Brendan brought forth in me, and many others it appears. It ran the gamut of emotions and as o believe his brother Tim remarked to the effect, a conversation with Brendan was so comprehensive, so intense, it left you exhausted but totally fulfilled. His energy could not be matched, his passion could not be surpassed! You never left a conversation with Bren wanting or needing more at that time.
But, sadly, we all surely want more now.
Spending time with Brendan was entertaining, amusing, and fun but above all, it was always educational.
His depth of knowledge on so many topics was dizzying and this encyclopedic intellect, combined with his raw passion and his pure love of living made for a rare, unique and tremendous human being and soul!
He touched so many lives, so many people, and truly helped people by saving lives.
He was trained as an EMT, but amazingly he saved more lives as a Pedicab transportation engineer and through his leadership and compassion displayed with his brethren at Midnight Madness, than he did in an ambulance.
He was truly doing God's work on the tough, mean streets of Manhattan on a daily basis and there are undoubtedly thousands of souls touched by his energy and compassion that we will never have the joy of hearing about.
And maybe that is for the best, at least it is the way Brendan would probably prefer it to be.
People who may or may not have even known his name but were surely, as all who met him were, swept up in the BTO vortex of positive energy and passion and inspiration as he yelled out their name, pumped his fist, stopped to chat and listen to them, or helped them with whatever they were doing.
The coffee or bagel guy, local shopkeepers, street vendors, politicians - no one was immune or escaped his humor, wit, and energy field! And no one forgot him!
Tireless, endless, passionate work helping others in need, not for the praise or glory, but because it was the right thing to do - and he just did it quietly, anonymously, and with nothing but the goal of making others' lives better.
Is there a better example of what my son Thomas said of his Uncle Brendan through sobs upon hearing how he was mistreated at the hospital when he crawled into the waiting room - "Brendan is like a modern day Jesus"... High praise from the mouth of babes.
And as we hear more and more from the people who worked and saw him on a daily basis, he truly was a modern day Jesus and Mother Teresa and Saint Theresa wrapped into one ball of love, passion, fury and energy!!!
He gave and gave and gave, helped ALL in need regardless of who they were or what they needed, all because of his tremendously huge heart and because he knew to do the right thing! He could not do otherwise!!
As long as I knew him, Brendan was always a "blow in and blow out" type of guy. He was always heading somewhere or just coming from something and despite this lifestyle, as Tiffany said, you never questioned his presence and his place in the family. You always knew he stood ready to jump to your assistance at the drop of a hat! He had all of our backs...continuously!
As he displayed with our niece Fallon when he would either sneak in or talk his way into the hospital after a night of work to stay overnight with her and Lizzy in those darkest hours of her illness - a steady rock of support and love in the toughest times was what we all came to know and expect of Brendan.
You did not need to see him daily to have 100% confidence that when someone - anyone - needed help or assistance or defense that Brendan would be the first on the scene, throwing the full brunt of his passion and compassion into the solution and leading the charge!
This was a given and an irrefutable fact.
I consider myself blessed to have known Brendan and to be a part of his family. As with the entire family, just being around them makes you a better human being.
One cannot help but be shown what it means to be a caring, giving, and passionate soul by living near and with every member of the O'Toole family. It is a privilege and a wonderful gift to be anywhere near their love and support network.
Brendan led that charge as well. As we heard from his co-workers and friends this week, his capacity for kindness and compassion was boundless and he was truly his father's son.
Listening to the stories from the people he helped ("Brendan truly saved my life") it was like deja vu all over again from his Dad, Tom O'Toole's, wake and funeral.
Brendan, your Dad would have been bursting with pride if he lived to see what you accomplished with your life, the enormous impact you had on people's lives, the unconditional love you showered on your son, Jonah, and the tireless work ethic you displayed on a daily basis. All without losing sight of what truly matters in life.
Any dad would be thrilled to hear his son describe what their dad meant to them as eloquently as Jonah did about his father, Brendan. It was an amazing and accurate tribute to a great man and summed up what made B so special....no judgments and unconditional love.
So as I attempt to go back to a semblance of normalcy and fight through the fog of emotions that his passing has caused in all of us, I reflect on what lessons we can take from Brendan's way too short life here on earth.
1. Never give up on anyone. He never did and as Jonah said, he would see what was special in you and work with you, regardless of your shortfalls.
2. There are second chances for everyone. No matter what path you start down, or how far we stray from "normal", there are always second and third and fourth chances to get to where we are destined to be. Brendan had amazing courage, willpower, and guts to do all he did in his 55 years and as my daughter Teaghan quoted, he lived 5 lives in his 55 years on this planet. His last 12 years especially were an example for everyone as to the way a real man conducts himself, for his family, his beloved, and his fellow human beings!! Brendan nailed it and then some!!
3. None of the crap we use to measure our worth as humans matters at all! You hear it consistently but does it ever really sink in? Who can look past societal norms and not let themselves be caught up on the chase for material wealth? "What does it profit a man to gain the whole world yet lose his soul?" Brendan had the courage and heart to do just that!! He lived simply, with only a few material wants (his blue convertible) and understood exactly what should be valued, what the measure of a man truly is by the standards that really count, and showed us all how very off base we are in that regard! Few people including myself, even if I won the lottery, could ever be as rich as Brendan was and this lesson should be a wake up call to us all!
4. As his brother, Robert "Bruce" O'Toole sang so perfectly at the funeral, "Read, Read, Read, and help all those in need". Brendan did both of these things tirelessly and was brilliant! How often do we have the opportunity to help a fellow human and sadly do not do it for whatever reason and whatever excuse? B did not make excuses, he JUST DID IT! Each and every time. He WAS the Good Samaritan on this earth!! How much strength, courage and selflessness did this man possess? All in anonymity, all for the sole benefit of those who needed help. How can any of us ever measure up to Brendan's standard? To me, it is like the difference between a mole hill and Mt Everest!
5. Do not take anyone for granted. Life is so fleeting and short! If you have to say something to someone, SAY IT!! Show the love now, let them know you value them and this earth would not be the same without them! Do not wait!! Do not put it off until tomorrow. Do it today, because tonight it may be too late to say it!!
6. No regrets! There can be no regrets. We all screw up and make mistakes. Dwelling on regret gets us nowhere at all. Instead, learn from the mistakes and fix the problem. Teach others to do the same. Life is a bizarre trip, and the real rules of this game are questionable and up for debate. Follow your heart and soul and do the right thing, with others as the focal recipients of our actions, and you cannot go wrong! Brendan embodied this approach!
7. You never know what your actions, however small and seemingly insignificant, do to others. People derive such strength and inspiration from our words and actions, so do not be afraid to share your thoughts with others and lead by example above all!!
Brendan will live on in our hearts and I am certain he will be a guiding force for us all going forward from his perch in Heaven!
Listen for him, speak to him, and above all follow his lead and example as to what a successful life truly means!!!
To me, he was by far the richest and most successful man I have ever known and I would be lucky to be 1/100000th as successful as Uncle B!!!
We all would!!
And that is my goal now!!!
We miss you and love you, Brendan. Fortunately for us your energy level and passion cannot be held back even from Heaven and we feel it today!!
You did indeed fight the good fight and you were the Champion in all of our hearts!!
Rest well!!! I will miss the sight of you rolling up on your bike and hearing your stories, opinions, and feeling that blast of positive inspiration and energy that blew in like a hurricane whenever you appeared!!
We have a lot of work to do here until we meet again!!!
But meet again we certainly shall and I hope by then you can be proud of what we carried forward from your example!
If not, I am sure you will let me know!!!! ;)
Love ya, B!
Uncle Doug
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Posted By CIM to Stay Strong at 12/06/2011 11:59:00 AM
…If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed; ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible to you
(Matthew 17: 20 KJV).
Prayer is, without a doubt, the most powerful force on earth.
It is unlimited and unsurpassed in its scope and power.
Prayer knows no boundaries and is not limited by time or space.
R.A. Torrey very eloquently and powerfully said concerning the power of prayer:
Prayer can do anything God can do.
All that God is and all that God has is at the disposal of prayer.
Through prayer we are transported into the heavenlies where we stand before Almighty God in His glorious majesty, seated upon His Throne.
We are able, through prayer, to tap into the unlimited power of God and take hold of the impossible.
"The vast, unsearchable resources of Heaven are at our disposal through prayer! God has given us "… exceeding great and precious promises; that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature…" (2 Pet. 1: 4 KJV).
There are approximately 37,000 promises in God's Word!
From Genesis to Revelation, God has given us His promises, which make provision for every need in every area of our lives to be met.
By His promises, God puts all things He possesses into our hands. Prayer and faith put us in possession of this boundless inheritance. -E.M BOUNDS
By His promises, He has placed all things He possesses in our hands.
Prayer and faith enable us to take possession of those promises and appropriate them in our lives.
We can have all that God has!
Prayer can transcend the laws of nature, invade the realm of the dead, and restore life.
Prayer can give instant access to anywhere: into any home, hospital, office, courtroom, prison cell, or any other location desired.
I will never forget when my darling wife, Theresa, was at the point of death. She had been at death's door several times but God healed her.
One day in a Partners' Conference a man came up to us and said, "Theresa, honey, is everything all right?" Theresa answered, "Yes, it is now."
He said, "Well, on such and such a day God woke me up and for three days I prayed and interceded for you."
Those were the three days Theresa had hovered between life and death.
Your prayers can be used by God to impact cities and nations, bring salvation, healing, and deliverance to people in India, Africa, China, Indonesia, Saudi Arabia, or any other country.
Through prayer, angels can be brought down to protect you and your family.
Your prayers can go into a hospital operating room and help guide the surgeon's hands and release a flow of God's healing power into a loved one.
God has given us a secret weapon called prayer that gives us access to anywhere in the world!
....From "Prayer Changes Things"
Stay Strong!!!
"Do not look forward to the changes and chances of this life in fear;
rather look at them with full hope that, as they arise, God, whose you are, will deliver you out of them.
He is your Keeper.
He has kept you hitherto.
Will you but hold fast to His dear hand, and He will lead you safely through all things; and, when you cannot stand, He will bear you in His arms.
Do not look forward to what may happen tomorrow.
Our Father will either shield you from suffering, or He will give you strength to bear it."
- St Francis De Sales
I absolutely love this passage!!
If we believe this and take it as truth - or better yet, even if we are skeptical and not all the way there yet but willing to give it a try - how can any one of us have an ounce of fear, worry, anxiety or a lack of Peace about anything in our lives?
It is akin to a "Guarantee"!
It is His Promise!!
If you were "guaranteed" that at the end of all our struggles, troubles, and daily strifes that it would all be ok and everything would work out for the best, would that change what you think of and spend your time thinking about?
Would that make a difference in how you wake up or go to bed?
Would it make a difference in your peace, your joy, or your attitude?
Would believing in this promise alter how you approach problems and deal with setbacks, live your life, and interact with people?
Would it change how you are handing a current battle or storm - be it illness, divorce, unemployment, grief, person relationship strife, etc??
How great and easier would life be if we had this type of guarantee??
What would your mind and thoughts consist of when all the worry, uncertainty and fear vanish in an instant?
Well, this in no infomercial but that guarantee exists TODAY!!!!
It is not in writing or in a legal contract anywhere and we really don't have a "Tripadvisor" review site to check it's legitimacy.
However, it does exist and it is real and all we need do is take that Leap of Faith and BELIEVE it for it to take hold!
Seems worth a shot to me!
Afterall, what do we have to lose by taking that Leap?
Only gripping and debilitating fear and anxiety.
Stay Strong!!
"You are being protected by the Power of God through FAITH.
Even if now for a little while you have to suffer various trials, so that the genuineness of your faith - being more precious than Gold that, though perishable, is tested by fire - may be found to result in praise and glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.
Although you have not seen Him, you love Him; and even though you do not see Him now, you believe in Him and rejoice with an indescribable and glorious joy, for you are receiving the outcome of your FAITH, the salvation of your souls."
1 Peter 1:4-9
Stay Strong! !! Relax!!
Happy Friday!!
