Monday, September 30, 2013

[Stay Strong] Be the Bridge. ...

As I waited on a telephone hold this morning, this song came on. Despite the fact that I have heard this song 50,000 times over my lifetime, I was deeply moved this morning by the lyrics. It was as if I was listening to it for the first time!
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> I think of my own daily struggles with life, trying to find meaning and value and do the right thing for our families and ourselves, and this song really sums up the Source of Strength we all need in our battles!
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> I view this song from not only the voice of friends and family who you know are right there in the thick of these battles with you - Always --- but also from a Spiritual perspective!
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> THIS is what is meant by Faith in whomever you believe in spiritually! 

THIS is what I picture God, or Jesus or Buddha, or Allah, or Virgin Mary, or especially the Holy Spirit communicating to us every morning, day and night!
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> This is what we need to hear and know and TRULY BELIEVE!! 

Remember..There is ALWAYS someone there along side us during the times of solitude, when we feel defeated, beaten up, in despair and Hopeless, lonely and troubled!!
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> I strive to be this person on this earth for my friends and family and often fall woefully short due to my own shortcomings and human frailties.

BUT I feel the pendulum shifting as we speak and I know with my prayers for Guidance and Strength and Courage, I WILL be a better bridge and source of strength for all whom I know are in NEED of it today!
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> For those of you whom I have failed, I apologize -- and WILL make it up to you~!~!
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> The time is NOW for YOU to be that bridge and shelter as well! 
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> Despite all YOU have going on in your lives, there is someone who needs you and whom you can ASSIST TODAY!! 
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> You ARE NOT hopeless - you ARE NOT Powerless -- YOU CAN DO IT  --- starting today!!!
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> Believe it and it will be Truth! 
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> I believe in You!! 
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> Now it is your turn!!!!
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> Read the amazingly beautiful words below and BELIEVE that there is someone PROMISING you this type of protection and shelter and STRENGTH!!! 
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> Because there truly is if you BELIEVE there is!!!
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> Stay Strong!!
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> A Bridge over Troubled Waters
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> When you're weary
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> Feeling small
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> When tears are in your eyes
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> I will dry them all
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> I'm on your side
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> When times get rough
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> Like a bridge over troubled water
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> I will lay me down
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> When you're down and out
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> When you're on the street
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> When evening falls so hard
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> I will comfort you
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> I'll take your part
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> When darkness comes
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> I will lay me down
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> Sail on Silver Girl,
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> Sail on by
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> Your time has come to shine
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> All your dreams are on their way
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> See how they shine
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> If you need a friend
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> Like a bridge over troubled water
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Friday, September 27, 2013

Re: [Stay Strong] Happy Friday!!!! Walk a Mile...

We have probably heard this saying a couple thousand times in our lifetime.
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> "Do not judge a man until you Walk a mile in his shoes."
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> We hear it and understand it - but it is important that we truly grasp the meaning of this wise and powerful proverb.
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> As we have discussed here many times, it is very simple to get lost in our daily struggles and issues.

When we have challenges and problems, we as HUMANS tend to let those problems consume our every waking moment, overwhelm our thoughts and actions - We simply cannot seem to stop obsesssing on the current strife we battle on a daily basis.
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> We also tend to be quick to judge others who may not share our goals, outlooks, fashion style, lifestyles, etc. It is - unfortunately - human nature to succumb to these judgements.
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> It may be human nature but it DOES NOT mean that we cannot overcome these tendencies with a little mental effort.
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> Without getting too deep into the psychological basis or the "WHY" we tend to do this (insecurity, jealousy, competition, fear, ignorance, upbringing, etc) it is key that we UNDERSTAND and BELIEVE that we can change it if we so desire and choose!
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> Today try to embark on a new mission - a mission to see EVERYONE we meet today as a Brother and a Sister - not someone in need of a judging.

Endeavor today to stop the normal (for most - not all) pattern of competition inherent in every interaction.
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> Try not to see others from a "how does that compare to me" perspective today and going forward - but instead look at them from a "how much are they hurting" or "what can I learn from them" or "is there anything I can do to assist them in THEIR daily battles and struggles?"
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> Walk a mile in their shoes and put yourself in their place before we jump to conclusions about why they are a certain way - or why they act in a certain manner.
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> Become a solution for them - and you will be pleased by how quickly whatever you are focusing on becomes secondary in nature!
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> It is a step toward fulfillment and joy and it is well within our control to make it a REALITY - starting............. NOW!
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> We never know what a person deals with daily - so provide the benefit of the doubt to those who appear surly, angry, mean, or rude.

They are not this way because they WANT to be (in most cases - lol) - and perhaps, just perhaps your influence in their life can help them get past it and move closer to their God given right to

JOY,
PEACE and
HAPPINESS.
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> You may never know if it worked - but you can be assured that the effort alone will take you closer to those three places above we all strive to reach!
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> Stay Strong!!! Have a terrific weekend!

Thank you Dory OT for the amazing photo!!

Thursday, September 26, 2013

[Stay Strong] Check the Attitude today!!!! Daily Inspiration

"It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term will come."
     ~ Dalai Lama
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> So much in life is attitude, Isn't it?
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> Think about the power your "attitude" holds in your daily life.
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> We are truly slaves to the whims of our minds, thoughts and attitudes.
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> Like the Law of Attraction, we  draw to us that which we think and hold firmly in our minds -whether good or bad..
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> It is not easy to forget our challenges and daily trials and just whistle past the graveyard.

But we can control our attitude - and make a meaningful impact on our happiness and peace -  if we cultivate a Faith and Belief that everything is going to be ok.
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> Because if we pray and focus on the positives, all WILL be ok!
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> The first step in any action for us should be to check our attitude. If we are fearful, anxious, negative and worried, we will not be drawing to us the positives we should be seeking in our lives. 
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> We need to reassess and change the attitude every time we feel fearful or worried, and even if you have to fake it, that attitude shift will take us to a place that over a short period of time will eventually become permanent!!
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> We do not appear to control a whole lot on out lives, but we clearly CONTROL our attitudes and thoughts!!!
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> And those two things are the most critical parts to success, happiness, and peace!!
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> How do you feel today? Why???  Can you change your mind and reverse it?
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> Of course you can!  That is from where the phrase "putting our minds to it" derives!!
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> All of us can and must...beginning today!!!! 
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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Suffer through it...

"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet.
Only through experiences of trial and suffering
can the soul be strengthened,
vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved."
- Helen Keller

Without some amount of trials and suffering in our lives, we as human beings cannot fully reach the depths of our character.

Despite the imagery of what the media, commercials and magazines bombard us with constantly,  life is a mix of good with the bad and to believe that we can - or SHOULD - escape it is a pipe dream!

We cannot elude it - but we CAN use it to our advantage as we build our own identity and character - and by helping others who are in the midst of their own battles!!!

When the storm comes, do not cower and do not let it overwhelm you!

Even the most devastating and horrific storms pass!!  And we pick up the pieces and move forward!

Embrace and accept the storms - the reward for sticking it out are too numerous to count!!

You are not alone in your battle!

Stay Strong!

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Act!

"Inaction breeds doubt and fear.
Action breeds confidence and courage.
If you want to conquer fear,
do not sit home and think about it.
Go out and get busy."
    - Dale Carnegie

Is there anything worse than waiting around for something to happen?

It is only worse when either fear or anxiety surrounds the situation.

Our minds are the critical puzzle piece to attaining peace and joy.

The mind and what we allow our minds to process  is the most important deciding factor in how our day is going to go, how our week, month,  year, and life will proceed!!

When confronted with a trial or fear of physical harm,  our physical nature is hard wired - either fight or flight! 

The same holds true for our minds!

We have a decision point when confronted with a challenge - we run from it or we take it head on!

Chances are that every single one of us reading this has some sort of trouble, worry,  fear, or challenge that we are facing - at this very moment!

If we choose - and it is OUR CHOICE- to cower and ruminate on the issue over and over again every waking hour in our minds,  we have chosen the flight option! !!

We have decided to let our minds compound and pile on to our one issue ALL other worries and fears that it can conjure up and we are quickly overwhelmed! !!

It can happen in an instant and that cascading of fear and doubt and depair will paralyze us!!

The other option we have at out disposal is Fight - ACTION!!

Fight off the urge to compound the one issue we are facing and instead ask yourself this question:

"What is the worst that can come from this?"

Chances are that the end result of the worst case scenario is not worth the pain and suffering that allowing our minds to open the floodgates of fear will bring upon us!

We must take the offensive - take action - figure out an action plan to solve or address whatever the issue may be!!!

Do not sit and think about the problem - jump on the solution to it right away!

Remember - no problem is eternal and all that we have to deal with will pass!!  It will not matter in 100 years - perhaps not even in 100 days!

Take charge - control your thoughts and exactly what you choose to focus upon - and ACT!

It is the only good choice!  

Stay Strong! !!

Monday, September 23, 2013

[Stay Strong] Give Thanks and Remember.... Doug Millett, 49

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which read:
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> A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat.
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> That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came by to see how tihngs were.
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> The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning?  What did you write?"
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> The man said, "I only wrote the Truth. I said what you said but in a different way. I wrote,
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Give Thanks to God for what you have TODAY!
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Today IS a beautiful day and many do not have the blessing of being able to experience it.

Our good friend Doug Millet passed away this weekend after a long and courageous battle with his sinister disease. 

All those who know Doug probably cannot recall him losing any battle against any foe at any time.

He was a fearless competitor, a wonderful human being, and tremendous father and family man!

In Doug's honor today and every day going forward, try to appreciate and give thanks for all we have and the blessing of being able to see just how beautiful this day - and all of our days - actually is!

Doug lived every day of his life this way - and even in the midst of his hard fought battle -he never stopped appreciating all he had and the blessings he had been afforded - especially his wife and boys.

God bless you, Dougie - you are missed already!

Stay Strong and Keep the Faith!

Bloomberg News -
 
Douglas Millett, Who Helped Chanos Bet Against Enron, Dies at 49

Douglas Millett, a portfolio manager who shorted stocks with James Chanos at Kynikos Associates Ltd. and helped expose the hollow underpinnings of Enron Corp. before its collapse, has died. He was 49.
He died on Sept. 21 at Calvary Hospital Hospice in the Bronx, New York, according to his brother, Mike Millett. The cause was adenoid cystic carcinoma, a cancer of the salivary glands, which was diagnosed in May 2012.

He lived in Armonk, New York, with his wife and two sons.

A graduate of Yale University in New Haven, Connecticut, Millett worked from 2010 to 2012 as co-portfolio manager and director of research for the Perella Weinberg Partners Sustainable Resources funds, focusing on alternative energy, water, agriculture and other investments prone to scarcity. His last professional affiliation was with First New York Securities LLC., a brokerage firm.

His 10 years at Kynikos, the New York-based investment company, immersed him in short-selling, or betting that shares of a given company will fall. Chanos is regarded among the best in that field, in part because of his early and accurate public doubts about Enron, a Houston-based energy company, before its fraudulent accounting was exposed and it plunged into bankruptcy in December 2001.

As head of research, Millett was part of Kynikos's Enron team, along with Chanos and Charles Hobbs, Chanos said yesterday in an e-mail. Chanos credited Millett with originating the oft-quoted description of Enron as "a hedge fund sitting on top of a pipeline."
Questioning Enron
Millett and Chanos worked with journalist Bethany McLean on what became her March 2001 article for Fortune magazine that questioned the fundamentals beneath Enron's soaring share value.

In "The Smartest Guys in the Room: The Amazing Rise and Scandalous Fall of Enron" (2003), co-written with Peter Elkind, McLean recalled Millett asking her, "Would you put your money in a hedge fund earning a 7 percent return?" She said Chanos added, "Read the 10-K and see if you can figure out how they're making money."

Also during his time at Kynikos, Millett led an expansion that quadrupled the firm's research staff and acted as the liaison to the firm's biggest client, New York-based Ziff Brothers Investments LLC.
Highest Qualities
"I am sorry to inform you that one our best friends, and ex-partner, Doug Millett, lost his battle with cancer," Chanos wrote in an e-mail to colleagues. "There is no one who ever met Doug who was not impressed with his rock-solid integrity, towering intellect, and unmistakable sense of humor. He in all ways embodied the qualities we hold dear, but more importantly, was simply a good person. We will miss him terribly."
Douglas Tyler Millett was born on May 20, 1964, in Columbus, Ohio, the son of Allan R. Millett, a longtime professor of history at Ohio State University who is now director of the Eisenhower Center for American Studies at the University of New Orleans, and the former Sarah Tyler.
He played football at Upper Arlington High School in Ohio and then at Yale, where he received a bachelor's degree in economics in 1986.
His first job was as a stock broker at Robinson-Humphrey Co. in Atlanta. He worked from 1988 to 1991 as a proprietary trader at the Gelber Group, a Chicago-based firm specializing in algorithmic trading.
He was an analyst at Kynikos from 1991 to 1993, left to join the now-defunct investment bank Robertson Stephens & Co. in San Francisco, then returned to Kynikos in 1995, rising to partner and chief operating officer.
Brief Venture
In 2004, with backing from Kynikos, he left to form Currahee Capital Management, a fund manager that lasted only a year. According to an article in the New York Sun, Millett said the 11-employee firm, with $30 million in startup funding, struggled with the costs of Securities and Exchange Commission rules, accountants and third-party research.
"We simply could not run the fund well with that capital base, given the structure that regulators and investors demand," Millett said, according to the newspaper.
Millett spent a year as head of short selling research at Select Equity Group, then nine months as a managing director at J.P. Morgan Securities, before joining Perella Weinberg Partners, all in New York.
Big deals weren't the only things he liked to land. On his LinkedIn Corp. profile page, Millett added a photo of himself holding an enormous striped bass, with the Manhattan skyline incongruously behind him. His brother said Millett, who got into fishing because of his sons, caught the fish in the East River near the United Nations.
In addition to his parents and brother, survivors include his wife, Joanne McElligott, and their sons, John, 13, and Daniel, 8.

Friday, September 20, 2013

Re: [Stay Strong] Stressed Out? Worried? Depressed? Solution: Remember what truly matters!

Apologies in advance for the length of this entry - but I hope you can stick it out!  ;)

As a kid of about 6 years old, I remember vividly having this epiphany regarding life in general and it ranked up there with one other enlightening moment that brought me a sense of relief.
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That whole prospect freaked me out and after asking my Dad (who must have really been concerned about my state of mind back then) and receiving the definitive word that I could actually skip that experience due to my gender, I was so relieved.

And now having witnessed 2 of my own births up close and personal since that time, I know now that I had every right to be relieved! Lol
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I remember that moment like it was yesterday!
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I remember thinking that "Nothing" I do in my life can change that - spare me the grave, or alter this FACT!
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How kind were you to others, helpful, compassionate, merciful. How did you ACT - not what did you DO. These are subtle but dramatic differences.
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It was clear that his Dad's co-workers liked and respected him not only for his accomplishments but mostly for the way he acted and treated others. It was a lesson for him and it should be a lesson for all of us indeed!
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Seek out each other and provide the STRENGTH and KINDNESS that others may need TODAY - and that elusive peace and joy will inevitably be yours!!

That is a fact!
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